Issue 35 · Valentine's Day 2022

Letters to the Love Guru

Over the past two weeks, The Tavern sent out a survey to all Brooks School students, asking for their questions regarding love and relationships. After receiving several interesting questions from our peers, we invited a mysterious Love Guru to come to their aid. We hope the Love Guru can give you more insight and confidence as you search for love!

Q: How do you get a boy's attention/subtly show him you're interested?

A: Give positive responses to his actions! This can be done in many ways, from giving small compliments to agreeing to spend time with him. And if you want a really subtle way: find out about his interests (preferably something specific and not overly popular) through mutual friends, then post something related to it on your social media and make sure he sees it!

 

Q: How do you know if someone likes you?

A: There are a lot of answers to this question because everyone shows affection through very different ways! However, one thing you can pay attention to is whether your actions have led to a positive reaction from the other person. A good way to figure this out is to make broad proposals but not plans. For example, tell them about an upcoming movie you want to watch, or a restaurant you want to go to. If they show interest in joining you, or even start to make plans with you, they might be into you!

 

Q: I can't tell if he is flirting with me…like will anything ever come from it? I’ve gotten with a couple guys after him at this school. Does that mean I’m a slut?

A: No one should be called a slut for the way they approach relationships! As long as you feel safe, comfortable, and happy with how you handle your relationships, there is no need to give yourself pressure based on how others might perceive you. As for the guy, don’t be too hard on yourself if the response is not to your expectations. A healthy relationship takes effort from both parties!

 

Q: Should I make the first move?

A: Why not? This is going to sound very cliche, but the worst thing they can say is no! Even if you get rejected, know that it’s usually not because of what they think of you, but what they think of themselves. 

 

Q:Am I capable of love?

A: It won’t hurt to find out! However, do not make promises that you can’t keep if you are not ready to commit.